Chatroom
dating
Chatrooms are a great place to meet potential
friends, and perhaps lovers and even better you don't have to
dress up and pass visual inspection to go there.
The anonymity of a chatroom means that if you mess up or you
don`t want to continue to get to know him you can just leave
the chat room and don`t go back or you can change your log-in
nickname.
This is not a license to be obnoxious, but it does give you
plenty of room to practice making friends with strangers.
Here are some tips to help you out when using chat rooms.
Stay safe
Protect your identity
If you want total control of the information that is to often
revealed to the world through chatroom, don't use your personal
or your work-related e-mail. You should sign up for an e-mail
account specifically to use for chatting on line.
Don`t reveal private information
Be careful about the information you give in casual conversation.
Don`t give any hint of your work place, your home town or other
personal info that can be linked to where you come from.
Listen to your head
Use your common sense and judgment. If someone sounds creepy
or a bit dodgy, there's a good chance they are. If your flirting
is getting a bit out of hand for your like speak up or change
your e-mail address and nickname.
Getting to know people
Be honest
If you want people to be open and honest with you, you must
also do the same. You don`t have to go into personal details
but don`t pretend to be someone your not other wise you will
only attract the people that are looking for the type of person
you are pretending to be.
Don`t expect to much
Remember that you are using a chartroom so you have no idea
what this person really looks like or what his personality is
like. You may build a mental image of him. Don`t because 9 out
10 you will be wrong and will feel disappointed if he doesn't
live up to your expectations. Keep an open mind and you won't
be disappointed.
Develop common activities
Make dates with each other to share activities, like playing
online games or sharing a forum. Talk about how long you expect
to communicate online before meeting.
Don`t fake photos
If you decide to swap pictures, send a current picture which
is flattering, but doesn't hide or distort your true appearance.
Misleading pictures are probably the leading cause of disappointments
in relationships that start on the Internet. What ever you do
make sure that you give him a photo of you and not someone else
or you'll never be able to meet him because he will think you
are someone else.
Meeting
If You get to the point in your online relationship where you
decide you want to meet each other, arrange to meet in public
where you will be comfortable and safe. Meet in a busy place,
over coffee or a casual meal. Be prepared in case you don`t
like him and have a back up plan. Ask a friend to phone you
an hour after meeting him and you can tell her you will phone
her later if you two are getting on well. If you aren't getting
on well you can make an excuse and leave. Remember to always
let someone know where you are at all time.